Have you ever thought what it's like to be married as a woman?
First, the name change
The name you were born with will be forever altered
in the name of convenience of proof of partnership
Everything you've published or the name you were called before
on the day of your wedding will be changed
Then, the conjugality of your property
Your purchases made as a struggling young woman
become a joint property with your husband
The furniture, the assets, the jewelry, many things of value
You yourself no longer own completely
Opening your womb to a man, exposing yourself to childbirth
and potentially ruining your body, your looks, your self-esteem
and your life, especially from what comes after
You play a bigger role in bringing and rearing a child into this world
that there is a disproportionate need to sacrifice your career, your hobbies,
your leisure times, your opportunities for career or personal growth
to stay home, tend to the home, become the home of another human
To be denied of your self-possession to make space for another
who may or may not reciprocate the value of which you have chosen to give
At first two, then, God knows many else
The inability to make a decision on your own, the need to consult a husband
On choices on where to live, to work, to travel to, to raise children with
The inevitable dependence on moments of weakness after many years of self-dential
Yet to be compared by society against each other,
against someone younger, prettier, smarter, wealthier, more successful
a better girlfriend, a better mother, a better wife, a better woman
A competition on who is more loved, valuable, worthier, more useful
all the days of your life but especially once you are married
Oh, the cage of marriage
Is it worth it?
What is it there for a woman?
