Marriage for Women

 Have you ever thought what it's like to be married as a woman?

First, the name change

The name you were born with will be forever altered

in the name of convenience of proof of partnership

Everything you've published or the name you were called before

on the day of your wedding will be changed

Then, the conjugality of your property

Your purchases made as a struggling young woman

become a joint property with your husband

The furniture, the assets, the jewelry, many things of value

You yourself no longer own completely

Opening your womb to a man, exposing yourself to childbirth

and potentially ruining your body, your looks, your self-esteem

and your life, especially from what comes after

You play a bigger role in bringing and rearing a child into this world

that there is a disproportionate need to sacrifice your career, your hobbies,

your leisure times, your opportunities for career or personal growth

to stay home, tend to the home, become the home of another human

To be denied of your self-possession to make space for another

who may or may not reciprocate the value of which you have chosen to give

At first two, then, God knows many else

The inability to make a decision on your own, the need to consult a husband

On choices on where to live, to work, to travel to, to raise children with

The inevitable dependence on moments of weakness after many years of self-dential

Yet to be compared by society against each other,

against someone younger, prettier, smarter, wealthier, more successful

a better girlfriend, a better mother, a better wife, a better woman

A competition on who is more loved, valuable, worthier, more useful

all the days of your life but especially once you are married

Oh, the cage of marriage

Is it worth it?

What is it there for a woman?